I’ve had someone tell me lately that my actions “do not match what is seen on Facebook”. This of course initially stung, because I live in a way that is extremely open and honest and I’ve never been told anything even close to this from dear friends to brand new acquaintances. After a few minutes of being initially upset; I quickly remembered what I would be sitting here telling my kiddos or my husband if they were in the same situation, and now I’m more than excited to address this one head first!
This post is more for my kids than anyone else… I believe fiercely that it is beyond important for our children to see us practice what we preach to them in our own lives.
-There are a few quick and obvious points to throw out first and I’m reminded of the simple truths that I remind Hayden, Lucy, and Grey about; I always tell my kiddos that people are going to judge you, they are going to criticize you, they will gossip about you, call you names, and speak harshly about you both behind your back and to your face.
-I remind them that the only ONE whom we seek any applause from and the ONLY one who knows our hearts and can judge us is God. He can see the root of our ♥️, He knows our motives and He will always be here for us , He will NEVER ever let us down and He offers forgiveness when we mess up.
-I also remind my three kiddos that as long as they’ve done their best… that their daddy and I are proud of them.
-We caution them to be moldable to receive correction and apologize when wrong. That we repent from our wrong actions and turn the other way so we don’t repeat the same wrong again.
-Often times I finish off our chats with a reminder that it is good to stand up for themselves, to know when to fight for truth and what is right and when it is best to let the “bully” have the last word and just to walk away.
It’s for these three tonight… make sure you have a voice that is steady and speaks truth even when it’s not the “fun” thing to do!
You know how easy it is to preach these things and stand up for others and then turn around and not practice these things in your own life? Man… the weight of people’s words has a marked impact on lives. You can bring LIFE to people or bring DEATH just by the power of words…
(Proverbs 18:21: The tongue can bring death or life; those who love to talk will reap the consequences.)
I’m so thankful for these experiences that remind me to let the haters hate… to continue keeping my eyes solely on Jesus and to run this race as strong as possible.
(Hebrews 12:1
Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a great cloud of witnesses, let us throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles. And let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us.)
Remembering tonight that:
-Others opinions do NOT matter.
-Unhappy people try to make people unhappy.
-I am accountable for my own actions.
-Bullying happens even in adult-ville
-MOST of all… remember the things we teach our kiddos👍🏼.
-Live IT Out!
XO, Dani
I, too have been struggling. May 19th I didn’t think I’d make it through the night. I had alarming lab results and was plummeting faster than I knew was possible. Prayer chains started and texts went out that night. A dear friend found a clinic that looked promising and I committed to calling first thing in the morning. Every clinic I had called said that the wait would be at least 8-12 weeks just to be seen and I didn’t have time on my side. I called this last doctor and shared my lab results with the lady who answered the phone… she literally said “Sweetie, you cannot survive like that… come in right now.” Tears streaming down my face, I agreed and still in shock; Cory and I hopped in the car and ran to see this new doctor. He immediately got to work and I’ve been making positive strides each day. It’s a slow and steady battle, but one we’re having to take on every day to keep me alive and able to fight this disease head on.